How do I tell my friend his smoking is effecting my asthma?
I recently been diagnosis w/ asthma. Today I almost pass out from second hand smoke @ work. My co-worker smokes but also let his clothes smoke with him – After his smoke break I literally have to leave – he knows I have asthma – how can I tell him without consequences from manager and other co-workers or making him feel bad?
sorry, but I think you are over-reacting. If the smell of the smoke on his clothes is causing that bad of a reaction then the exhaust of cars next to the building should do even worse…and god forbid you ever go anyplace with a woodstove or fireplace.
If you are that sensitive to fragrances then perfumes, candles, etc would also be horrible…so unless you are ready for that response from him..that everyone in the office needs to use all natural products with no scents and nobody can wear perfume or hair gel, etc…and that you will be wearing a filter mask outside because of car exhausts, pollution, etc. I really wouldn’t try to complain if I were you. Second hand smoke (unless you are in an enclosed non-ventilated space while someone is actually smoking) is an easy scapegoat..but in reality it is much less irritating and damaging then pollution, car exhaust, fragrances, candles, woodsmoke, etc to asthma. Obviously if he were smoking in the office with you then you might have a justified complaint..or in a car with you, etc…but the fact that he is smoking outside on his break, is not something you have the right to complain about the smell on his clothes, asthma is not something you get to use as an excuse. You have the responsibility to get your asthma under control or to make changes yourself because of your asthma..others do not have the responsibility to make changes for or because of you..unless they chose to do so.
If your asthma is that out of control you should be on sick leave, talk to your doctor about disability.
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August 3rd, 2010 at 6:54 pm
tell him up in up dude he’s ur friend
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August 3rd, 2010 at 7:09 pm
Tell him Politely, and just tell him to lay off the smoking around him, and maybe just sit down and talk to him about your athsma and tell him your breathing is affected by his smoking.
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August 3rd, 2010 at 7:45 pm
sorry, but I think you are over-reacting. If the smell of the smoke on his clothes is causing that bad of a reaction then the exhaust of cars next to the building should do even worse…and god forbid you ever go anyplace with a woodstove or fireplace.
If you are that sensitive to fragrances then perfumes, candles, etc would also be horrible…so unless you are ready for that response from him..that everyone in the office needs to use all natural products with no scents and nobody can wear perfume or hair gel, etc…and that you will be wearing a filter mask outside because of car exhausts, pollution, etc. I really wouldn’t try to complain if I were you. Second hand smoke (unless you are in an enclosed non-ventilated space while someone is actually smoking) is an easy scapegoat..but in reality it is much less irritating and damaging then pollution, car exhaust, fragrances, candles, woodsmoke, etc to asthma. Obviously if he were smoking in the office with you then you might have a justified complaint..or in a car with you, etc…but the fact that he is smoking outside on his break, is not something you have the right to complain about the smell on his clothes, asthma is not something you get to use as an excuse. You have the responsibility to get your asthma under control or to make changes yourself because of your asthma..others do not have the responsibility to make changes for or because of you..unless they chose to do so.
If your asthma is that out of control you should be on sick leave, talk to your doctor about disability.
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greatgrandmother died of asthma in 1931, aunt died of asthma in 1934, severe asthma since birth, three children with severe asthma, two since birth, and grandson just diaged with asthma in infancy.
August 3rd, 2010 at 7:53 pm
If I understood you correctly the co-worker is smoking at your job? I’m hoping that your asthma is under control, the second thing I would do is either request a change in you cubicles so that you are further away and won’t be affected. It’s I guess his choice and right to smoke but "also" your right to be able to breathe somewhat fresh air.
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August 3rd, 2010 at 8:42 pm
Asthma is a serious disease!
If he is your friend he will be considerate.
All my friends are great about it.
The freedom of breathing has it’s rights!
I almost died from this about 4 years ago.
I am sensitive to almost all trees,grasses,animals,scents,SMOKE of any kind and many more.
That doesn’t mean I have no right to work or be in public.
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My body